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When you don’t want to be in an exclusive relationship but don’t want to stop sleeping with the person who wants to be exclusive…what do you do? Prem & Rogue debate this from across the girl-boy divide (go feminism! and delusions!) in the ideal world and … in the real world.

Another episode and another set of diverging viewpoints – but you’ll be surprised, one of the agony aunts, sorry, brother/sister actually changes a point of view. Listen to find out more. First we talk about respect and habits – can you ask someone to reform traits because they upset you? Prem thinks it’s about respect and you can and should toe the line. Rogue says it’s like asking a cat to be a dog and vice versa. Can our listeners celebrate their differences or is that too utopian?

So, this time we’ve got another wide range of questions and Prem and Rogue deliberate issues of substance abuse, codependency, agency, laziness, timing and other important things BUT in their typical candour and humour.

Utsav’s wife is pregnant, yay! But he doesn’t want to have sex with her. How can he get out of it? He loves her, but he’s not attracted to her right now. Stay tuned, your favorite Indian agony aunts (Ok, didi & bhaiya) Prem & Rogue have very different sympathies. Hint: there’s a pirate involved!

When Rogue dated someone who smelled less than rosy, she turned tail and ghosted…but one of our listeners doesn’t have that option. “Tina” is engaged to someone whose natural smell doesn’t do positive things for her libido. How does she approach him? Are there tricks to changing body smell? Or instead of changing how you smell, you have to change HOW you smell? Ok, that doesn’t work, but you know where we’re going with that.

Does this happen to you? you’re in bed with your lover/partner and your mind drifts off to being intimate with someone else? One listener wants to know if that’s normal. And another writes in to ask advice about what to do when her partner freezes her out after an argument. Four days of silent treatment hurt. Prem & Rogue have plenty to say about both, including a surprisingly personal take from Rogue.

What do you do when the casual hookup wants to swap personal stories and you’re just into the sex? You write to agony ‘aunts’ Prem and Rogue who give you not one, not two, but THREE options of how to deal with it (it could involve some pet behaviour therapy).

This week, the siblings take on the brave new world of telling people to back off, nicely – and putting their mouth where their money is … no? Okay, never mind. Episode 32 has a question from someone whose colleague is being a bit too familiar with the flirting and it’s making her uncomfortable. How does she get it to stop? Prem thinks she should just address it, Rogue thinks it’s really hard for girls to be even nicely confrontational. Whom do you agree with?

We’re joined by a bonafide expert for this episode: Psychologist Sonali Gupta is in the house to unpackage what’s going on when a listener tells us her ex keeps liking her posts and comments. Does this passive act have a meaning? Come join us for a vocabulary lesson with not just the whys and hows but also the what to do about it! You don’t want to miss this.

Prem & Rogue are back to help you ride the waves of singletonness. So this week we’ve got a follow up to episodes 28 & 29. You’ve gone on date #1 (maybe even 2) and it’s just obvious it’s not going to be the romance (or lay) of the century. How do you deal with it? Write the proverbial ‘Dear John/Jane’ letter or text? Or never return their calls and texts? We have Prem’s new and improved advice for you.

We just can’t give enough, but that’s how we are: Giving! And we want you to take … our advice. In Episode 29, we continue with our Back to Basics theme. We’ve got the do’s and don’ts for how to deal with a bad first (or second) date. Do you just ghost? Or go the Dear John/Jane route? Prem & Rogue have totally different approaches.